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You may have had sex dreams and their meaning at some point. Sometimes the erotic fantasies come unexpectedly and, above all, with surprising people that you didn't even have on your radar - and especially not in such a tingling situation. In other cases, however, they are very predictable. Either way, it's totally normal to subconsciously indulge in sensuality and ecstasy at night. And you are certainly not alone in this. Sex dreams are pretty common.
But what do sex dreams mean and do they even have anything to do with reality? This questionis not so easy to answer, because the whole thing is still a pretty big mystery. There are of course theories on the part of research and psychology. Of course, it's not uncommon for inner desires to be lived out quite unabashedly here - above all without pressure, completely detached and free.
Because no one else is there, no one can judge. Or you can simply process the many impressions of the day. And who knows, certain series or songs work unconsciously like activation buttons for sexual fantasies.
According to theories, these can also be an outlet to process something or to become aware of certain feelings. Which would also explain why you dream of sleeping with someone you don't care for in real life. Because in that case they don't have anything to say directlyhave sex to do.
When talking about why one has sex dreams, it's important to note that it can be very individual. According to experts, the connection between their clarity and their content can be related to their relationship to their own sexuality.
In addition, certain things that play a role are unconsciously perceived during sleep - such as the temperature in the bedroom , light or even the duvet that you touch. For the brain, this is an external stimulation that it can integrate into the dream. Basically, the whole thing has a lot to do with emotions, according to various psychologists. Also because having sex in a dream can release energy that has previously accumulated.
Are you puzzled about sex dreams and their meaning ? In summary, it can be said that they go back to processing things. But what if you want to dream them consciously? What if it's just pure desire?
Wouldn't it be nice to know a trick to make sure you get a good night's sleep? And then of course with a person of your choice. We haven't found the universal key to late-night fun, but there are a few buttons you can press. After all, to increase the chance of a sex dream.
One option is to sleep on your stomach. Researchers at the University of Hong Kong agree that this position makes you have more sex dreams. There is also a theory as to why this is so: because the genitals are supplied with more blood in this position. It's also possible to become sexual during sleep if you engage in sex a lot or masturbate right before you go to sleep. There are some theories that dreams reflect both waking thoughts and behaviors.
You can try it out and think intensively about certain fantasies during the day and especially before you fall asleep - maybe your dreams will come true. If you look around on YouTube in this regard, you will certainly come across one or the other tutorial about lucid dreams in which the sleeping person can consciously control the action. If you can do that at some point with a little training, you can certainly include sex.
#1: Sex with the boss
Suddenly you wake up with a strange, queasy feeling. You can't quite remember what just happened while you were sleeping, but an unpleasant aftertaste remained.
And then suddenly there are flashes of inspiration: It was about sexual acts with the boss. What do such sex dreams mean? Do you have emotions for your superior without even being aware of it? Don't worry, this nighttime scenario probably says more about you than about your affection for someone.
Means: In psychology it is assumed that such a sex dream is an expression of wanting to advance one's own career. The boss symbolizes professional success because they hold a managerial position. Maybe you look up to them and project their qualities onto yourself through the sex dream.
But if you have a rather bad relationship with the boss, it makes sense to get to the bottom of the matter. How did you feel in the dream and how is the mood in the office? Perhaps questioning will lead you to a topic that has yet to be cracked.
#2: Sex with celebrities
In real life, you couldn't be further away from each other. That's why it comes as a surprise when you wake up in the morning after a hot night with a celebrity - which of course took place in a dream. This is also completely normal and not a sign that you actually have secret feelings for Angelina Jolie, Megan Fox, Halle Berry, George Clooney or Brad Pitt. It's all about symbolism here.
One theory is that the celebrity in the dream embodies and reflects something specific that one might wish for oneself. Be it money, fame, success, but also special character traits such as self-confidence, openness, sociability or assertiveness. You don't know the celebrities and you don't know at all whether these things even apply to you in real life. But the point is that you paint a picture of the other person, which you pose to yourself.
In this case, the sex dreams dream interpretation also means that you simply live out a fantasy. You can find this prominent person really very attractive. So it's no surprise if you get closer in dreams and maybe even often have sex dreams with the celebrity charm.
#3: Sex with a stranger
Some of us have certainly had the experience of becoming intimate in dreams with someone we don't even know. A person you've never seen, let alone met. What is the meaning of such sex dreams ? There is probably not much to question here. The whole thing points more to a normal sexual arousal.
#4: Sex dreams with the: The ex
Dreaming about having sex with an ex-partner can be quite unnerving. Questions arise: Are you still not over the person? Do you still have feelings for her? This is very surprising, especially when the ex-relationship dates back many years. Some psychologists have tried to unravel the mystery and see various possibilities here.
Having sex with the ex in a dream does not have to be a sign of infatuation that will not go away, but it can mean that you have not yet fully processed something from the relationship. Or it is the complete opposite and means that you are completely over it and no longer feel any negative emotions towards the ex.
Maybe you just miss the feeling of being in love. Even if love has completely died out, one sometimes likes to think back to the security one felt in the old relationship. And this longing could be the trigger for a sex dream with your ex - even if you are already ready for something new.
The meaning of sex dreams when in a relationship is quite interesting. A lot of people feel guilty when they dream of becoming intimate with someone other than their partner. Of course, it can happen that it is a pipe dream if you are really interested in the person from the dream in real life. In many cases, however, you admire something about her and want to project it onto yourself.
Similar to the sex dream with the boss. According to the dream interpretation, it may well be that you are dissatisfied with something in such a case. Sure, that can actually be the current relationship, but it can also be something completely different like a job, fitness or family. The longing for a change is symbolized by the infidelity. That is why such dreams can also be very revealing and draw your attention to something.
[Via GQ Germany]
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